Red Dirt RubyConf 2011

  • Keynote
    Aaron Patterson
    Open source contributions include:
    ARel, Nokogiri, and Mechanize
    Aaron Patterson - AT&T Interactive
  • Keynote
    Dr Nic Williams
    Open source contributions include:
    Hudson.rb, RoR Textmate Bundle, and ChocTop
    Dr Nic Williams - Engine Yard
  • Conference Themes
    nike slides on feet
    but we can learn from them My own experience, and now the experiences shared by so many other women in these pages, convinces me that women can't act like men and expect to be liked, to be able to lead, and to be paid what they're worth. But we still need to accomplish all of those goals. Reuters' global editor at large Chrystia Freeland notes, "We as women are still immigrants; we don't speak the native language very well. It might not be that these male ways nike e marketing of behaving are, absent other factors, better, but they are the dominant cultural mode, and like all immigrants we have to conform to the dominant cultural mode. We can learn a lot from the men around us." Surely our demeanor and delivery have to be different, and that's our main challenge. She has many stories to tell about what women in the workplace could learn from men. "Some of the guys I've worked with have just had a really great sense of entitlement." When she was the editor of Working Woman magazine, White hired a guy let's call him Jack as a senior editor. There were three other senior editors, all women. When Jack was first hired, all the editors had their own offices, but soon, for economic reasons, the magazine moved into a new building with less space. "It turned out that all four senior editors were going to have to work out of this big room that had once been the company library," she says. White knew this would not go over well. "I went down to see what was happening, and discovered that Jack had slipped some money to the movers when all the furniture was being delivered," she tells me. "He arranged for them to give him a big old bookcase, which he used to divide off his area, and then he got them to bring up a little couch from the basement. Brilliant. Suddenly he had an office. If you had walked in you would have thought he was the boss and the three women were in the typing pool. He just said to himself, 'Okay, this isn't the best situation. What do I have to do to fix it to my advantage?'" White says many women think, " 'Hey, we're following orders here, we're doing what we're supposed to do,' whereas a lot of guys in the workplace make up the rules as they go along. Men scam the situation Jack had an air of entitlement that said, 'I deserve this, and I'm going to get it.' I just laughed and thought, 'What can I learn from this guy?'" She's right; a woman's tendency is to fall in line and accept the status quo, even if it doesn't benefit her. Women seem more willing to be accommodating than to insist on being accommodated. "Someone needs to do this. Someone needs to mop the floor. Okay, hand me the mop."Morning Joe regular guest Elizabeth Warren is a Harvard law professor. In September 2010 she was appointed Assistant to the President and Special Advisor to the Secretary of the Treasury on the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau, a position in which she will build the new agency that will oversee the rules on financial products such as mortgages and credit cards. She's a woman who surely would be horrified by all the mistakes I've made along the way in my career, or so I thought. As a longtime advocate for consumers, Warren has gone up against some of the biggest names on Wall Street, and she has famously locked horns with Treasury Secretary Tim Geithner. Warren, who has been on Time magazine's list of the nike shoes in wide World's Most Influential People for two years running and often appears on our show to talk about the economy and financial reform, impresses me as a sharp, gutsy, no nonsense woman. But she admits to me that when it comes to her personal value in the workplace, she still struggles. Warren remembers how surprised she was when she realized her male colleagues had that sense of entitlement that she lacked. It happened when she first started teaching at the University of Houston. Before the semester began, she heard from the associate dean, who was scheduling courses. "I got the call asking, 'Would you teach the lousy course at the lousy hour on the lousy day in the lousy room?'" she says. She didn't want to teach that particular class, but she didn't see any way around it: "I thought, I'm sure someone needs to teach at the lousy hour on the lousy day in the lousy room, so I said, 'I'll do it.'" A couple of years later, Warren was promoted to associate dean, and it was now her job to assign courses, classrooms, and time slots. "So I took the map from the year before and started laying it out, and I sent all these notes out on what and when I needed people to teach," she remembers. "But every single man on the faculty who didn't like their schedule sent me back an e mail saying, 'You know, you don't understand, I only teach at ten o'clock on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays.'" Warren says, "Every single woman could be leveraged into teaching the lousy course at the lousy time in the lousy room. Men would just say, 'No. That's not convenient for me.' I thought, 'This is astonishing!'" I ask Warren, "It never crossed your mind to say no?" "Partly I felt lucky to be there; partly, I'm the cooperator, you know, let's get the job done. Someone needs to do this. Someone needs to mop the floor. Okay, hand me the mop. I really see this as the difference between putting ourselves, if not first, at least putting equivalent value on ourselves we don't see our own worth. We see how we can be helpful to the team or to the group. We see what we can add without stopping to ask, 'Wait a minute, this is a valuable contribution why am I making this, and what am I getting in return for it?' "You're always careful about generalizations here, but for me nike outlet hawaii it doesn't even cross my mind until later, when I'm committed to do something and I suddenly look around and realize, 'So how come the three people who agreed to do the hard, invisible labor here are all women?'" Warren points out that while the low profile jobs may be both necessary and important, they just don't garner the accolades or the money and promotions. For that reason, men simply never pick up the mop. She sees this at her faculty meetings at Harvard. "Someone will say, 'Well, you know we should hire X because he and they will name three very visible accomplishments. And I know for a fact, and every woman in the room knows for a fact, that X is a real pain in the rear: X won't cooperate, won't help out, won't be a team player. X will not help move the whole institution forward, and that's regarded as irrelevant. You know, it's the difference between the big valuable things that people do, and all that stuff that women do that's all that crap stuff. That's the stuff no one notices, no one cares. No one values." I can think of countless lousy shifts that I've volunteered to work in my life. Time away from my husband and my kids, time that I needed to take care of myself, that I gave up in order to work. To be the cooperator, the person with the mop. I know for a fact those lost hours made no difference to my employers, but it is the lost time with my family that I'll never get back. I often pushed my self to extremes to get nothing in return except bad health, and at one point, a baby with a broken leg. Warren's description of herself when she was starting out made me cringe, because that was me. Always trying to run faster, to please everyone, and very seldom getting anything in return. If You're Not Paid for It, Don't Do It Personal finance expert and force of nature Suze Orman argues that for their own sake, women have to resist the urge to always pick up the mop. When you know what you're worth, you'll have an easier time asking to be compensated for what you're bringing to the job. And if you're not getting paid fo